While Raising A Child Having Fear Of Strangers Or Crowd

Who doesn’t want a happy and cheerful child playing around and giving you break of the lifetime? Well that is the dream hope of every parent but not everyone is bestowed with it all the time. Kids are moody little creatures, full of tantrums, cries, sudden shot of happiness but extreme joyful. But do you think you can easily make it happen by reading books or choosing the right way of raising them? Then you are highly mistaken as every one is born with a unique personality which can be altered but couldn’t be totally replaced. That being said, I will give you instances from my own real  life and how people around me responded to when my little girl freaked out in front of strange faces or in crowd.

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My girl is sensitive and cries a lot when introduced to new environment or people. She is fine playing at park with other people around but on a visit to friend’s place she freaks out. She won’t go to anyone except me or my husband. All she will do is to cry till she get exhausted. Thanks to couple of my friends who actually understood our situation and let her be like that or eased her. But then world is not full of good people. Sharing my thoughts on the same.

First of all, if you happen to be a parent of such a child read below pointers immediately.

  • IGNORE – Ignore the gaze of people in malls or public places as they mean nothing to you and either they might be correlating with you or judging you which is in no way beneficial to you in your situation.
  • CALMNESS – Don’t even think that your crying child can put herself all together when you yourself is losing calmness. They need you to look confident whether it helps in their situation or not.
  • DIVERSION – Try to carry things like iPad or her/his favourite book/ toy which can help you divert her/ his attention for a while.
  • CHOCOLATE – Giving chocolate is a crime in a dictionary of perfect mom’s world but sadly, I haven’t seen such a mom till date. So carry few and bribe them to make them temporary happy.
  • HUG – Hug them tight and make them feel right. They might not stop crying but deep down they feel secured.
  • JUDGING – By this time, you must have totally stop judging other moms and their efforts in raising kids. Let them be.
  • LESS CROWDED – Introduce your kid to the personal family meet ups where you don’t get lots of people to disturb her peace. This is tried and tested by me. They react better with fewer people. And they learn to socialize too. But if they handle fewer people well that doesn’t mean that they are prepared to handle the large crowd.
  • PRO ACTIVENESS – Be proactive and tell new faces to not say ‘hi or hello’ to them at all. Ignore them completely. Believe me they are more happy that way.

Life is already difficult for parents with such kids and then there are friends who either make you feel better or worse. Here are the few reactions which I got when my girl freaked out for her consistent fear of strangers and crowd.

  • Reaction I respect : “That’s absolutely fine Shilpi, it happens with little kids. Don’t worry just take care of her.”
  • Reaction made me feel low : “Shilpi, your girl cries too much. Doesn’t she get tired of crying?”
  • Reaction made me feel happy : ‘Don’t worry Shilpi, she will be fine after she will grow up and start talking. It’s momentary.”
  • Reaction made me realize ‘how stupid people can be’ : ” My friend’s kids are so social as their parents take them out more often and they never cry.” (I mean seriously, are you talking about different kids or computerized created prototypes. Sorry that is my reaction to them.)
  • Reactions made me lose your respect : “You guys have made her like that by laad-pyaar (extreme love care).” ( Pause ! I am raising twins in the same manner and environment then how can one is destroyed with it and other is quick absorber. This is sh*t !)

And the list can go on like this with no real benefit to anyone. All I request to everyone, is to be little sensitive to new parents and support them rather than making them feel low of their parenting skills. They are going through a tough period which will get better for them soon enough than you realize.

Dixie Outlet Mall $200 Giveaway

So happy to share with all my readers a great chance to win an exclusive $200 shopping experience to Dixie Outlet Mall in Mississauga Ontario. I myself had a great fun few weeks back of shopping for $200 gift card provided to me by Dixie Outlet Mall. Here are my few posts related to this campaign.

The Teaser | Shopping Visit to Mall | My Spring Outfit Reveal

Enter to Win $200 Giftcard below

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Giveaway is only available to people in Greater Toronto Area or who can visit Dixie Outlet Mall personally.

Dixie Outlet Mall Shopping Challenge ~ Outfit Reveal

Last week was all about hunting exciting deals from  Dixie Outlet Mall. It was an opportunity to test my skills for saving through deals while creating a cool spring outfit. It was full of fun as I got the chance to explore almost all the shops in Dixie Outlet Mall. Not only I visited my regular brand stores but found quite a new ones which I never been to. Since spring is a season of cool breeze so I choose my outfit on the similar theme ‘BLUE’. What better could be in blue than Denim shade. I tried to keep my outfit casual and simple enough to be carried by any shape & size. Do you know how much I saved while compiling this complete outfit ? Keep reading to know the exact saving.

♥ Read here to know more details about Dixie Outlet Mall and challenge details.

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Denim Parka (Urban Planet) | Top (Guess) | Denim Legging (Levis) | Handbag (Aldo) | Leopard Pump ( Manic)

I always try to gather pieces from various shops so that I can save as much as possible. I did the exact same thing this time. I sticked to my plan and explored quite a lot different outlet stores and found the best deals they were offering. It is always a possibility that you get at least one of your favourite from a store and hence you can end up making a great outfit with lot of savings.

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So finally here’s my total savings revealed in the below picture. Yes, I saved total of $128.90 with a $200 Gift card provided to me by Dixie Outlet Mall. Isn’t it great ? Well, Dixie Outlet Mall is fabulous place for deal hunters.

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I would personally recommend to all the readers and my dear friends to visit it at least once if you are in Greater Toronto Area (GTA) or if planning to visit near by region. It is a must try for all deal hunters.

Dixie Outlet Mall Visit To Get The Best Deals

Few weeks back in my this post I mentioned that I got a great chance to participate in Blogger Challenge via Dixie Outlet Mall. Here’s a second round-up on various stores and exciting deals I found there while visiting them for my spring outfit challenge. This was my first visit to Dixie Outlet mall since I live in downtown so never got a chance to explore it. To my surprise, it was flooded with high brands and their great deals. I walked in that mall from end-to-end for at least four rounds to explore each and every shop inside out.  I personally even checked men’s shops as well as kids, so that I can come with my family for our next shopping trip. Each and every shop has deals and prices were comparably way less than regular stores price.

I was asked to get a spring outfit for me and the shops which I personally hunted my deals from are Levis, Aldo, Guess, Urban Planet, Tommy Hilfiger, Nine West.

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Family Trip To Legoland Discovery Centre Toronto

Few weeks back I was invited to take a visit to a newly opened Legoland Discovery Centre in Vaughan Mills in Toronto. I was ecstatic but was skeptical whether it will be good place for us to go with toddlers, since by this age they hardly figure out what exactly Lego fun is all about. But to my surprise, my kids (2-year-old twins) totally enjoyed it and it was worth the visit. Read ahead to know things I noticed and worth the point to know before you visit.

♥ Read here my post for Twins 2nd Birthday Party Home Decor DIY.

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Designer Profile : Fashion Illustrator Jocelyn Teng

Jocelyn Teng is a multitalented young fashion illustrator and an entrepreneur based in Toronto. Owner of WALL9, an online shop for illustrations for fashion and other things as well as she is a senior designer for Line Knitwear and John & Jenn. Her clientele list has some very respected brands like Louis Vuitton, L’Oreal Paris, MAC Cosmetics and many more. Her illustrations are realistic and exquisite. She is an artist by nature and supported by a great cultural background. All the illustrations used  below are available in WALL9 for purchase. Lets get to know her better.

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